Teach Them to Feel

I count it a huge honor and responsibility to be a mama to five kids. My kids are in the early years and they’re all different. Much laughter and screaming is the soundtrack of my days. I think each emoji icon would be used over and over in possibly an hour of my day in having five little humans around.

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Such a huge responsibility to raise children! And you Marvel Spiderman fans know the line… “With great power comes great responsibility…” My children are going to be an asset and contributor to the community… for now they’re under my care and training. They are good neighbors to others. They are great children and siblings to one another.

This 2020 year has shook things up a bit and one child of mine in particular is a feeler! She lets us know that she’s feeling the feels… my job, let her feel and help her to label them. For the quiet ones, I have to take time to draw their emotions out of them and sneak away some “us time.” The loud ones and the quiet ones–they matter.

I have recently come across some disappointment and heartache in relationship recently. I would like to attribute that the parties involved were not taught to truly feel and sit in their emotions then label and process them. I like to say “know what to do with said emotion.”

I vow to my children that I will help them to know their worth and value is simply being my children. Sure they will face heartache and disappointment some by their own doing and some by the natural broken world we are in… but my desire is for my children to feel what they’re feeling and process those said feelings.

I believe that if I miss the responsibility and training up of emotionally intelligent children, who are mindful and wholehearted, then they will be children who constantly face a gap. They are never alone. They are never less than no matter their moods.

I know as an adult, I can’t stand it when I can’t figure out what emotions I feel and why! I would not want that to be the constant state of their hearts and minds.

My heart aches picturing grown up Adelle or Penny or Betsy or Moira or Mordecai trying to function as adults without the compassion, love, and care we must impart or train up our children in. With that, I believe the time is now.. it’s never too late to sit with our feelings and process.

Questions I like to ask myself: *What am I feeling? Where could this be coming from? Who said what or made me feel ______? What can I do with this? Where can I put it?

Parents, we can’t give what we do not possess. For me, if I had not gone through Postpartum Depression about three years ago, I don’t think I would have wanted healing and wholeness as I began aching for three years ago. Now that I am in a better mental and emotional place, I long to have my children to know this wholeheartedness. I am in process and a work in progress but I am glad I can ask the questions, feel the feeling and figure out what to do with them.

My pastor said years ago in a sermon that emotions evoke motion… and I am moved as a mama to train up children who are in tune with themselves and the world around. Why? So they could be an agent and ambassador that shows there is hope and there salvation. From the hope and salvation, there is an abundant life to be lived!

Tell me, what are your top emotions as of late and what do you think you’ll do with them.


By MamaDea

Life can be full of hope and abundance; I am certain we can find it because the life we want and desire: Jesus came to give us life and we can have it abundantly! A little about me: I am a wife, first. Next, I am a mama to five children; my husband and I have four daughters and son! I love to connect and talk about things of God and look for beauty in life.

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